New Year’s Resolutions: The Simple Key to Success

New Year's is always an interesting time.  "Out with the old, in with the New," many proclaim. It's the time where we take stock of where we have been, assess where we'd like to be, and make plans to change.

How many of you actually make New Year's Resolutions? How many of you are able to keep them, if only for a week, two weeks, a month? Are your New Year's Resolutions a springboard to permanent change?

While most of us truly believe we will keep those changes we promise ourselves -- and others -- we will implement, the reality is most of us are not that good at making change.  And, why is that, do you suppose? Well, we frequently lack a critical element required for change: self-discipline.

Corinne has shared the stage with celebrities such as world-renowned motivational speaker Brian Tracy

Corinne has shared the stage with celebrities such as world-renowned motivational speaker Brian Tracy

I recently had the luck of finding a copy of New York Times Best-Selling Author and management guru, Brian Tracy's book, "No Excuses." Several years ago, I had the amazing fortune and honor of not only meeting Brian at a seminar, but I also shared the same speaking stage with him.  I had just written my book, "It's Not Who You Know, It's How You Treat Them," and was sharing my presentation on the topic with the audience. Brian speaks very eloquently about how successful people become truly successful and one of the big "secrets" he talks about is self-discipline. Brian defines this vital trait very simply: "the ability to do what you should do, when you should do it, whether  you feel like it or not."

While no one is likely going to argue with the importance of self-discipline, the reality is, many of us struggle with its actual practice. Brian's book takes a realistic, practical approach to implementing greater self-discipline in every aspect of your life, personal or professional.

What particularly intrigued me about the book, and where it dovetails with my own work is in Chapter 2 where he launches into a discussion of "Self-Discipline and Character." Self-discipline is truly one of the great "virtues" and it's one that we cover in our SocialSmarts curriculum extensively.  Brian explains how the self-discipline principal is vital to one's success as a person when he writes...

The person you are today, your innermost character, is the sum total of all your choices and decisions in life up to this date. Each time you have acted rightly and chosen consistently with the very best that you know, you have strengthened your character and become a better person. The reverse is also true: Each time you have compromised, taken the easy way, or behaved in a manner inconsistent with what you knew to be right, you have weakened your character and softened your personality.

Again, I don't think anyone would argue with this. But, once again, it's easily said, and not so easily done. Tracy continues in the chapter with talking about the importance of training ourselves Continue Reading »

Did you like this? Share it:

Cyberbullying: No Online Laughing Matter

Word cloud for cyberbullying
My business was nearly ruined by a cyberbully. And that was before "cyberbullying" became trendy.

About 10 years ago, an individual began a very ugly attack on me personally and professionally out of a need to "get even" for a perceived wrong.  At the time, I didn't realize that this person had a history of "old school" bullying, stalking and harassment, but this appeared to be the first time technology was the weapon of choice.  The perpetrator used all sorts of tricks and tools to discredit me, including hijacking my business website, substituting a different, damaging site in its place, and creating new linked sites that not only attacked me for my position as an expert and coach on character and social skills, but also spread lies about my abilities and track record as a mom to my young children.

It was horrible...and didn't let up for months. I'd get the inflammatory sites taken down, just to have new ones pop up almost immediately. I lost sleep, couldn't eat, and my business suffered. I had to hire a private investigator, and, even get the FBI involved at one point because this individual harassing me happened to be a trained computer security expert.

The cyberbullying and harassment eventually ended, but the resulting damage couldn't be undone. Continue Reading »

Did you like this? Share it:

Facebook is the New Holiday Letter

You know me: sometimes I just muse about things that strike me as absurd.  For years I have struggled with the notion of the Annual Family Holiday Update.  You know what I'm talking about: those fancy, often gaudy, missives where the "head" of the family tries to be as clever as possible bringing their whole known universe up-to-date on the year gone by.  I really don't have a problem with the idea of a catch-up. We all have such busy lives that we have trouble keeping abreast of the doings of our friends and family.  Where I run into problems is that the family letter too often turns into the family "brag fest."

obnoxious christmas letterDon't tell me you haven't been the honored recipient of just such a piece:

Things in the Doe family couldn't be better this year!  Father has continued to top the charts in his role as salesperson for XX Corp.  In fact, because he's been so brilliant and closed so much business, XX has had to revise their entire incentive program. I mean, how many reward trips to the Orient and Hawaii can a family handle in one year? Next year we are thinking about giving several of our prize trips away -- there just isn't enough time for us to go on them all!

Little Suzy -- well, she's hardly little anymore -- has made the most magnificent match in Archibald. Who knew he was "closet royalty?" Once the engagement was announced, and the responses to the Save-the-Date card started coming in, well, we realized the venue we had chosen just isn't big enough for the over-1000 of our closet friends that want to share in their day of joy!

Tad has himself had a spectacular year.  Certainly we all know of his particular brilliance, but this year, he surprised even us! At the tender young age of 5, he has become the youngest student ever to be accepted at Harvard, in their molecular physics program, nonetheless!  Naturally, we accepted on his behalf as he is too young to sign his own name properly. The upside of the early admission is that it certainly simplifies our college application process, allowing us to focus more energy on those incentive vacations.

Finally, not to talk too much about me, but "Mother" has been quite busy this year, putting up all sorts of items to share with those less fortunate, chairing many important committees and galas, and working late into the night spinning my own organic fabric to make sure Suzy, Tad and Father are dressed in only the "greenest," and ingredient-pure cotton.  Thank heavens we have those incentive trips or I might never get any rest at all.

Well, happy holidays to you all.  Please keep your own family letters coming -- it's so hard to keep up these days, but we wish for you a happier and healthier New Year.  'Til Next Year!

You get the idea...But it's the downstream effects of these letters that I want to talk about -- and how that applies to much of what's going on in social media venues like Facebook.   Continue Reading »

Did you like this? Share it: