The unforseen impact of online “friendships”

I was speaking for a group yesterday on the topic of "Overcoming Failure to Educate," and afterwards one of the audience members came up to me and shared a story that really drove home a point that I'm guessing many of us really don't think about: be careful who you "friend."

Now, I'm sure most of us are conscious of certain types of people who may request online friendship and we accept/ignore them based on our own internal radar. But let me tell you this story and see if it doesn't impact your thinking a bit.

It seems a teen was applying for a job as security guard for the local Port Authority.  He was a high school graduate, decent kid, kept himself out of trouble.  Apparently a good candidate by all reason. During the interview, he was asked by the recruiter if he had ever been incarcerated or if  any of his friends had been or were presently.  (more…)

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The collateral damage of bad behavior

Yesterday and today are two of the worst days I've had in a long time.  If you looked up the word "heartsick" in the dictionary, my face would be next to it.  I have been hurt badly by someone I loved dearly, and someone who had claimed to love me a great deal, too.

No, I'm not talking about a failed romance.  It doesn't require a romance to suffer from a broken heart.  All it takes is someone to treat you badly, in a way you didn't expect and in a way you didn't deserve.  When someone in business violates your trust, it makes you made. When someone in your "family," takes advantage of you, it leaves you reeling.

Yesterday, a wedding took place.  It was the wedding of a dear friend of mine, someone I had known for years and to whom I had become very attached.  I wasn't there yesterday when she pledged her life to her young fiance; for a dozen different reasons, I couldn't support her poor judgement and bad behavior by attending and "celebrating" this marriage with her.

But the bad behavior didn't just occur yesterday. There was a whole series of poor decisions, bad judgment and unintended consequences that resulted in yesterday's fiasco, and today's pain. (more…)

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